Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Budgeting 101 - Part 1

Budgeting... one of those words which conjures up dreadful pictures of living in a straitjacket, not being able to ever do anything fun or spontaneous, and always having to worry about pinching pennies.

One of the purposes of this series is to debunk the former myths that many have regarding the confinement and limitations a budget puts on a person and to show you how you not only need to live on a budget, you just plain can't afford to live without one... unless, that is, you decide want to never be able to get ahead, or never be able to enjoy saving up and paying cash for things you need or want (yes, your real, very own, hard-earned dollars and cents!), unless you really aren't all that keen on living on less so that you can save more, invest more, splurge sometimes, and--most importantly--to be able to give more.

So, I want you all to begin this series by committing to set aside your many excuses for why a budget won't work for you. Oftentimes, the excuses are just really manifestations of laziness or selfishness. You don't want to live on a budget, you don't want to wait and save up to pay cash for something when you can afford it, so you'll come up with a nice list of reasons why you are the world's exception in the case of living on a budget.

I hope that by the end of this series you not only want to live on a budget, you will be fired up and excited about the possibilities that lie before you if you're willing to put forth a little effort to make your money work for you.

Why am I such a big proponent of living on a budget? Because I know that were it not for our budget and the grace of God, we would very likely be up to our eyeballs in debt right now, barely making ends meet--just like pretty much all the rest of our law school friends are. We wouldn't be living comfortably well below our means, we wouldn't have an emergency fund of five months' expenses in the bank, and we certainly wouldn't be on a savings plan to pay cash for a home in 3-5 years.

Yes, we're frugal (I came into the marriage frugal, my husband has learned to be out of necessity!), but we would be miles behind where we are now without a written budget. I know this because we've done the math and we know without a doubt that having a written budget, giving every dollar a name, and putting it on paper, on purpose (to quote a few Dave Ramsey lines) has saved us literally thousands of dollars over the last five years.

Our written game plan for our finances enabled us to get through law school debt-free living on around $1000 per month, it enabled us to weather over three months of my husband's unemployment this past year without us having to touch our savings, and it is currently enabling us to live well below our means on an average income.

Think you might be interested in joining us on this budgeting adventure to see what incredible things it could do for your finances? Well, stick around because in our next installment, I'll be sharing about how we got started on this journey and how you can too!

47 comments:

Amy Looney said...

I'm so glad you mentioned saving to buy things we want. I had gotten away from that, which is why I have a lot of credit card debt. Now that I'm on a budget, I save for things I want instead of rushing out to buy it and put it on plastic. I like to call it the "piggy bank principle." When I was little and I wanted something, I had to save my money in that piggy bank until I had enough money to get it. I remember being so proud when I bought a Cabbage Patch doll that I had saved for. I don't know how I got away from that as I've gotten older, but now that I've returned to it, I'm so proud of myself when I've saved for something I want to buy. I think it makes whatever we want a lot more enjoyable, knowing that we've saved for it! Thanks for your great blog!

Sheila Hill said...

I have a Budgeting type series on my blog called "Money Manager Mondays" It is great that you are tackling this as well!
Frugalgeorgiamom.blogspot.com

Sally said...

Thank you, Thank You, THANK YOU for presenting budgets in a positive light!

I love my budget and what is has helped our family accomplish!

I can't wait to read the whole Budget 101 series!

Sally

Someone Being Me said...

I can't wait to hear it. I am about to quit my job in May and we are going to be going from a 2 income household to 1. Not to mention we want to have another baby in a year or so. I can use all the tips we can get.

Anonymous said...

Now I understand why I have to check your website every day! I just graduated from law school and have quite a bit from debt (not so much from school directly but more from the opportunity cost of going to law school and not having full time employment). I love your site, in particular the deals sections. I am now learning to budget, and can't wait for your tips!
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Minimalist Mommy said...

I am a certified credit counsellor and see what lack of budgeting does to people on a daily basis. Great job on starting this and I will be sending people here.

Deborah said...

I'm going to go ahead and thank you up front for this series. I have an "informal" budget in my head, but I know I could save so much more if I wrote it down, in black and white, to look at every two weeks.
I'm working hard to convince my husband that a budget is a Very Good Thing. It's a (somewhat) uphill battle, but I am convinced!

CC said...

We've been doing so well with living on envelopes and not credit cards in the last few months, but so bad at actually sitting down with pencil, paper, and calculator and figure out where we went over and under our budget. Its very hard to work together as a team on this one since dh hates doing it. But we're doing our taxes this Sat so we'd better get moving on it!

Tasha Via said...

Can't wait to hear more!!! I'm pumped...

Stephanie said...

Can't wait to hear your pointers!

lizzykristine said...

While we married after husband finished school, living on a budget from day one (actually, before that if you count the wedding :) has kept us out of debt despite buying some basic furniture, numerous car repairs and medical problems in our first year of marriage.

We love budgeting. For one, every time the paycheck comes, we sit down and discuss upcoming events and how we need to budget for them. It keeps us on the same page and has prevented a few fights. :) Yay for communication!

Second, we really do spend less on a budget. We're both very frugal people who don't "blow" money, but budgeting has helped us save even more than before -- leaving us with more to give, too.

Third, a nice perk is that your designated spending money can be spent guilt-free, without worry about bills or savings. We can just enjoy it.

Even if we had money to spare, I'd still budget!

Jodie R said...

Can't wait, Crystal! Thanks for taking the time to share with us. I keep meaning to ask you a question, as I took your Supermarket Savings course online in the fall before we moved from the UK back here to the States. I am now near a CVS and Walgreens, many other stores. I remember you mentioning once that sometimes with things you earn for free that you don't use, you either donate them or sell them on a yard sale. I think you said that you can check whether or not that is legal in your area? I'm not sure how to do that, and I'd like to be sure, as I know we will be having at least one yard sale this spring, and don't want to be doing anything illegal if I have some things to spare.

Could you tell me how I can find out about those kinds of laws in my area? We are in Florida now, and I'd like to be able to plan ahead as I do my bargain shopping.

I also need to know how to access that information from our class - I believe you said we could access it after we were done? It's been such a long process to move overseas during the holidays, etc. I don't know if you have my info from the course or not, but if you do, I'd be grateful for your help!

Thanks again!

Blessings in Christ,
Jodie R.

learning the ropes said...

Hey,
Thanks for all the useful info you share over here. I always thought using coupons was too complicated, but after reading your blog for a while I got inspired, and today I actually bought something and used my first two coupons. Just thought of sharing my baby step towards savings.

simplemom said...

I can't imagine living on our tiny income without a zero-based budget. Dave Ramsey has SAVED our finances! And I heard about DR awhile back from you, so thank you for that. I'm so grateful!

Trixie said...

Hi Crystal--

One of the reasons I enjoy reading your blogs so much is that you share such great info on how to live within a budget. I've used one for years and find it a tremendous blessing!

Last month I wrote about it here.

http://farmhomelife.blogspot.com/2008/01/fresh-look-at-finances-part-i.html

Take Care,

Trixie

Anonymous said...

I'm looking so forward to this. I have been doing better since reading your blog and I hope to get even more under control with my budget. Thanks for all your hard work. Sara

Heather said...

Yea! I am so excited that you are delving into budgets! We are in the midst of FPU and nearing the end of our first month's budget. I have hit a few glitches and cannot wait to read what you have to say. So grateful to have found your blog- it has become a daily read!

mom_of2boys said...

I'm ready for a budgeting adventure! I can't wait!!

Joy of Frugal Living said...

Looking forward to it! We love our budget and totally agree - we couldn't be in the great position we are in today without.

I also found it freeing. After several years of not having much (grad school) I had a hard time convincing myself to spend a bit more on clothes or the occasional treat for me. Having a clothes budget, food budget and fun money budget has been a really positive thing. Saving and spending can both be fun.

Joy of Frugal Living said...

Looking forward to it! We love our budget and totally agree - we couldn't be in the great position we are in today without.

I also found it freeing. After several years of not having much (grad school) I had a hard time convincing myself to spend a bit more on clothes or the occasional treat for me. Having a clothes budget, food budget and fun money budget has been a really positive thing. Saving and spending can both be fun.

CHB said...

I want to encourage people to use budgets too - I always thought it would be too complicated & overwhelming and not help anyway, especially because I'm not a numbers person and definitely not a type A personality. But I LOVE BUDGETING!!! You're totally right, it's FUN! It takes time and effort to set it up but once it's done it's like an addictive game to play! Thanks Crystal!

S.B. said...

We operate with a budget, but I'd love to hear more advice from you on how we can adjust it!

Deepa said...

Hi Crystal,
Just wanted to say THANK YOU for doing this series. We've been doing ok-ok, no debt, saved 5living expenses, some savings, but I know that we could do so much more with a budget.
Waiting eagerly for the next installment :-)

The Adams Family said...

I am totally in and want to learn more on how to have steady budget management for our budget. I sometime do feel guilty that I make lot of money from my job than my husband because for several years he has been bounce to different jobs and it really burdens me so much to pay our rent/bills/support our son. Our major lack is communication and I always feel very overwhelm to manage the rent/bills each month. I cannot wait to read more series and thanks!

Magnify said...

I was doing envelopes for about 5 years. I just didn't like the whole credit card game and I always knew I wanted to be a stay at home mom. But something happened to me in 2007 and I just stopped using my envelopes and got of course. Since I started coming to this site I have found myself getting back on track. Thank you!

Jessica said...

I was definitely a spender before I got married. On our wedding day I had a little bit in savings and $0 in my checking account. My husband was the opposite. He saved every penny each month in order to pay huge payments on his Sallie Mae college loan. 7 months into marriage I am now a complete penny pincher and we paid off almost $14,000 in six months. A budget was the best thing that every happened to me. My husband and Dave Ramsey helped me so much.

Liz M said...

I find that a budget is a great tool for a financially un-savy spouse. It really breaks down the money ins and outs of a household. Thanks for the post!

KayleighJeanne said...

I just started talking about budgets a little bit on my blog, and it seems like my motivation is very similar to yours. I want to teach people how to control their own finances, although I am hoping to connect to a few people in real-life and you are connecting to huge numbers through the internet.

I think a lot of people have trouble because they try to tighten their belts too quickly, get frustrated and give up. I feel that one of the keys to successful budgeting is learning to live on your current budget and then slowly stop bleeding money.

Too many people use the same financial plans and dieting strategies, and neither work in the long term. If you starve yourself for a short period you are going to binge soon after. Improvement comes through changing your lifestyle over the longterm.

taralynn819 said...

Somebody else has got to have already said this, but living on a budget is FREEING! You don't feel guilty spending money because it's there to spend! (When I need new socks, I buy new socks!) We are fairly new to a strict budget, but we absolutely LOVE it! (Especially the part about prayerfully being student loan free by the Fall!)

angela said...

I'm really look forward to this.
Angela

Anonymous said...

We do not have a formal written budget and it is out of laziness. We don't really have any debt except for our mortgage so I never thought I needed a budget (or spending plan). The part where I always get stuck is "write down everything you spend for a week". Also I very rarely use cash because I don't like to have cash on me. We have been fortunate to never have credit card debt ever. But DH lost his job and we are feeling money is a little more tight now. I really like Crown Ministries (used to be Larry Burkett) and I listen to their radio show every afternoon. I have tried watching Dave Ramsey on TV but I'm sorry to find him very annoying and condesending.

Anonymous said...

What do you ladies do if your husband just doesn't seem that motivated to do a budget? My husband is more of a spender and I am more of a saver. We don't have credit card debt, but we do have a car loan, and I just know we could save more than we do now. But he doesn't seem that interested in any of our finance and budget books.

He asked me to keep track of our household expenses and give him the receipts so he could analyze them. Well, those seemed to go into a black hole and he ended up throwing them away.

So do I wait for him to take the lead on this, which isn't happening, or create my own budget for us? He comes from a family of spenders, so I think he is just out of his comfort zone.

How does one let one's husband lead in this area when he doesn't seem interested? You would think he would be relieved that I want to be a good steward, but, I think he sees it as a chore.

Melonie said...

Looking forward to seeing the rest of this series. The tips you share are always helpful, of course, but more inspiring is the personal STORIES behind it all. It's much more encouraging to hear *why* and *how* other families tackle debt elimination, frugal living, and the like, as well as the daily ins and outs of it all - as opposed to just being told "do this, this way, it works". :-)

frugal mom said...

You are so right. I have started my own blog to track my debt and pay things down. It amazes me that even with the best of intentions debt always finds a way of creeping back in when you haven't learned to control your money and not let it control you. I have paid off our debt several times in the past, but with every unexpected emergency it creeps back up. I have forgotten the value of a dollar, of saving for what you want. I have gotten so caught up in buying because I need it (no I don't) I want to get back to the basics so I can instill this in my children.

Thank you for your support, guidance and encouragement.

Anonymous said...

I really do agree that having a budget in black and white is a great idea, (and I hestitate to type this next word) BUT we are a single income family and dh is self-employed. We have what I call a fuzzy budget. I have a general idea of our budget and as a rule we don't pay for anything with credit. I stock up on food items when business is good, and eat out of the pantry, when business is down. When dh receives payment for a job, I print out our monthly expenditures and give my "financial report". This is new for us. I felt like I was always telling him what extras we could or couldn't afford. With this system, he now has a clue about where our money goes and has less "wants". Anyone else have any ideas for us working with a variable income.

Lylah said...

Great . . no, i mean. . . REALLY great post, Crystal....

you're just awesome!

blessings on you and your day...lylah

Anonymous said...

I am a supporter of a written budget as well and I look forward to reading this series.

You may have already thought this through, but I hope the time is taken to lay a biblical foundation for budgeting and stewardship. Reading through these comments I was surprised at the lack of any recognition to God for our resources. He is not only the giver of every material thing we have but also of all wisdom, knowledge, & discernment (NOT Dave Ramsey--Don't get me wrong, I've learned much from Dave Ramsey's books and programs). I hope that doesn't come across as harsh (it's so hard to read someone's tone). But please know I don't say this out of a judging or "holier than thou" heart--it was just a conern that come to mind while reading through this.

Anonymous said...

OH thank you for starting this, I would definitely benefit from learning how to budget. I'll be waiting to follow your instructions. THanks for your great blog!

Pamela said...

Hi Crystal - I have a question regarding budgets. My husband and I have followed Dave Ramsey's principles for 19 months now. We have paid off $16,000 of debt, fully funded our emergency fund, and saved a bit for our 2 year-olds college fund (thank God for all of it!). But there has never been a month when I haven't done some "creative financing". How do you truly stick to the envelope system? Every month I borrow a little from clothing to buy a better gift or borrow from gifts to pad my blow envelope. I really want to become more disciplined in this area, but don't know how to keep myself honest.

Anonymous said...

We don't live on a budget, but we are both very frugal. We both find satisfaction in saving. We have saved up for and purchased several large items over 5.5 years of marriage, including a car, a big down payment for a house, three laptops, furniture, a camera and more. We just reached our savings goal for an adoption!

happyhousewife said...

Crystal-
Thanks for doing this series on budgets. It was a budget that allowed us to pay off $11,000 in student loans and fully fund our emergency fund in about seven months. We were wasting so much money before we had a budget. Now I encourage everyone I know to make a zero based budget. It made all the difference for us!

Stephanie @ Keeper of the Home said...

I agree so strongly, Crystal. If not for our careful budgeting (and many of the things we learned from Dave Ramsey as well!), we would not be out of debt and living comfortably debt-free (though still very careful and frugal), having extra money to save or use for specific things our family needs.

I've written a lot about budgeting on my own blog as well, because like you, I just believe so much in how it helps to keep families from the bondage of debt, of buying things they don't have the money for, and especially for helping them to afford having mom stay at home!

Good for you to write this series! I'm sure it will be a blessing to many people!

Lyn said...

My husband and I were able to pay off over $5K in debt last year, along with $4K in home/car repairs on his income of $31K net.

This year, due to budget cuts, he is going to earn approximately $20K net (we've lost almost $1K month in income). If it were not for budgeting, we would not have been able to accomplish what we have thus far. Not only that, we are still looking forward to being out of debt soon. I have also been able to remain at home due to health issues which is a great blessing.

The things that have truly helped us have been #1 God, having a budget, using overtime & money such as our tax refund to pay off debt & a bit of self-denial put into the mix. We've had to give up many things, but we have accomplished a great deal & are looking forward to a brighter future.

Alex Hall said...

OT, but I wanted to let everyone know that the Safeway rally that was going on last week is going on this week as well. I went today, but discovered that you can only use the $20, $10 or $5 Catalina one time per day. So you can't keep going in and out of the store during the same trip.

Becky @ Boys Rule My Life said...

Somehow it finally hit me that I've been spending the same amount of money the last few weeks and getting more. While it's good that I'm saving money in the long run, I also want to save money NOW. I am really looking forward to this series and putting a limit on my spending, buying what we need, and saving money in general. Thanks for putting all of this in such easy to understand terms... it's not rocket science, but it sure does require some thinking!! :)

Thanks again!

Melanie said...

I love budgeting in our household! Everyone does think I am crazy, but I know by writing it all out and planning and managing our money better we actually get more quality everything. It makes us get what we need first and then we can see for the wants.

Burger Mom said...

We've always been careful with our dollars, but we've never had an actual budget. Never. Not even when our income was very low. We made it through just fine and have never had any credit card debt. However, we're going to give this budget thing a try. I'm posting about it over on my blog to try to help me stay accountable.